Move From Oy to Joy: Parenting Tips for a Peaceful Home

Written by Behrman House Staff, 01 of August, 2016
For Parents: Some Perspective for When Your Family is Driving You Nuts
Hot Topics: Free Range Parenting

The Joys and Oys of Parenting: Insight and Wisdom from the Jewish Tradition is available now for pre-order from Amazon! 


Let’s face it: the day-to-day realities of parenting can be messy. Fortunately, Jewish tradition offers timeless wisdom, values, and guidance to help parents of all faiths and backgrounds. The Joys & Oys of Parenting: Insight and Wisdom from the Jewish Tradition, coming in October, begins with the concept of shalom bayit (a peaceful home) and offers practical ideas, advice, and inspiration for raising children into confident, kind, responsible adults.

A discussion guide at the end of the book provides a framework for engaging parents in small, ongoing groups. Discussion groups can be safe spaces in which we learn about raising children, share and test ideas, and help each other based on our varied experiences. They allow parents - as well as grandparents, foster and stepparents - an opportunity to reflect on their own current practices and come away with new ideas from other parents, centered around and inspired by ideas from this book.

Each section of The Joys & Oys of Parenting applies problem-solving techniques to just about every parenting challenge.This first in a series of excerpts by the authors – Maurice J. Elias, PhD; Marilyn E. Gootman, EdD; and Heather Schwartz, MA - offers tips on how to move from oy to joy. 

Wisdom: Listen Carefully

To create a peaceful home, the authors say, all family members need to feel heard. Parents play the most influential role in shaping their children’s behavior, as kids follow the lead of their parents, whether or not the adults know they are being mimicked. That means that to influence good behavior, parents should consciously listen to, respect, and care about what their children say. Kids will also observe their parents’ reactions to unpleasant situations; keeping calm in moments of frustration or anger will show your children that negative circumstances can produce constructive responses. Promote a peaceful home through effective communication with your family.